1. Whether family members, people
at work, or best friends have hurt you badly, put yourself in their shoes and
treat them the way you would want to be treated, even if you think they don’t
deserve it.
2. If you’ve heard something you
didn’t want to hear, remember it may not be 100% true. So lighten up. If it’s
not urgent, put off thinking about it for a couple of days. Forgive the person
who may have wronged you; don’t forget, you’re doing this for yourself, too.
Prove to yourself that you can practice what you believe. Try to be as
understanding of others as you would want them to be of you.
3. There will always be losers and winners. Act according to how you want to feel about yourself when all is said and done. Don’t judge what others do if you don’t want them to
judge you.
4. Remember, what other people do is their responsibility. Don't let them cause you to carry a grudge and let their actions weigh you down. they are not responsible for your actions, no matter what they do. You are.
4. Remember, what other people do is their responsibility. Don't let them cause you to carry a grudge and let their actions weigh you down. they are not responsible for your actions, no matter what they do. You are.
5. If someone has said something untrue about you or done something intentionally to hurt you, wish good
things for them–even if you don’t feel like it. Ask for them what you desire
for yourself, and it will draw those things to you.
6. If you've made a mistake or disappointed
yourself or others, apologize quickly and earnestly; that's all you can do. Let your remorse teach you
how to have compassion for others when they make mistakes. Nobody’s perfect,
even though we all try to be. If someone can’t accept your apology, that’s
okay, too. Just do the right thing and go on.
7. Talk less and listen more; you could learn something about others and about yourself. Don’t take things so personally. If you have the right attitude, no
one can really hurt you. If you need to vent your anger, go outside and throw
rocks on the cement, take a walk, or, better yet, sing… it will help put the
melody back in your life. It’s hard to be angry while you’re singing.
8. If you think people are making
fun of you or someone you love, disarm them, not with your fist, but with your
best smile. Give them something they don’t know how to give. Speak to them; be
bold. Ask that they be blessed and you’ll be blessed, too. Forgiveness is a
powerful thing; it will help your body and soul. Don’t let others cause you to
act the way they’ve acted toward you, and remember that they have a right to do
whatever they choose also.
9. Don’t hide your hurts and
pains and feelings inside where they can harden your heart. Use common sense
and understanding to process them. Don’t react just from your feelings; respond
with maturity rather than childish habit. You won’t regret it.
10. Get in touch with the person
you want to be and become that. Listen to your heart… you can find the answer
there to every question you have. Remember, no matter how you’re treated, just
treat others the way you want to be treated when your feelings get trampled on...
~ Donna Fargo
From one of my collections: Think Positive Thoughts Everyday
Compiled/Edited by : Patricia Wayant